Ahhh,
the post break up mixed tape. As soon as you hit play and grab the Ben & Jerry’s
or Haagen-Dazs; you know you’ve got yourself a fully vetted pity party. You
lament and torture yourself through this experience. And you let the
agony and pain engulf you as you hope that the lyrics of these songs will
validate your experience and save you from yourself. The most amazing
part is that they do – somewhere deep down they words resonate and you pick
yourself up. Your strength returns and your courage builds.
Who
knew that those recordings had the power to console you, heal you, make you mad
and be your lifeline to the outside world from which you condemned yourself
from approximately 5 days ago. Let’s
face it. At some point in our lives we
have turned to they lyrical magic that is music to soothe us during our times
of distress. Music has saved us from
ourselves, helped us nurse ourselves back into functional human beings. I
remember playing Alanis Morisette’s Jagged Little Pill or You Oughta Know on
repeat. As I matured, I remember
listening to Profyle’s Liar Cheater and Sunshine Anderson, I heard it all
before. I have to say, my favourite post
break up song of all time is Allure – All Cried Out and Dru Hill – In my Bed
(the so so def remix).
I
remember relating to the words as if they were written for me. Curled up in bed with his t-shirt and boxers on,
singing with that pain filled voice.
Your whole family knew that you had broken up with him and to not come
near you without a ten-foot pole. Dad
grumbling about how he’s going to kill him for hurting his little girl – which
is only slightly comforting since it’s obvious, you’re not little anymore,
you’re mature and grown trying to establish and maintain a relationship. Mom is trying to placate you with your
favourite foods which is even worse because now you’re alone and she’s trying
to make you fat! And this moment in time
is that one time you wish you were an only child as your sibling dances around
the house oblivious to your impending heart broken death or being overtly
irritating by throwing your failure in your face!
But
then the days turn into weeks, the weeks into months, months into years and one
day, usually when you’re enjoying something peaceful, “I gotta be” by Jagged
Edge comes on. Pump the brakes!!! A
tsunami of emotions course through your mind and body – a gigantic OMG I
remember that song moment when you realize you’re about to be teleported. You outwardly react, you might not think you
do, but you do. The music takes you on a
long reminiscent stroll down memory lane, it reminds you of a time gone by,
good or bad, but you’re so far past it now that you can only smile. So many of our memories are linked to some
song that can transport us back to some momentous time that we can remember
fondly.
BADASS
break up songs of the 80’s & 90’s…
80’s
All
Out Of Love, by Air Supply
I
Wish It Would Rain Down, by Phil Collins
(I
Just) Died in Your Arms, by Cutting Crew
With
or Without You, by U2
Fast
Car, by Tracy Chapman
You
Give Love a Bad Name, by Bon Jovi
Here
Comes the Rain Again, by The Eurthymics
Broken
Wings, by Mr. Mister
90’s
Sinead O'Connor, "Nothing Compares 2 U"
Notorious B.I.G., "Friend of Mine"
No Doubt, "Don't Speak
Stone Temple Pilots, "Interstate Love
Song"
Smashing Pumpkins, "Perfect"
Lauryn Hill, "Ex-Factor"
Green Day, "When I Come Around"
Boyz II Men, "End of the Road"
Bell Biv DeVoe, "Poison"
TLC, "I Miss You So Much"
Dru Hill, “We’re Not Making Love No More”
Uncle
Sam – I don’t ever want to see you again
Feel free to comment on your favourites, maybe put a link up and we’ll turn it into a play list for other’s in their times of need.
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